ANYWAY, onward to the actual point of this post. I was tagged to do the Homemaker Tag! Yay! I have to answer six questions about being a homemaker on my blog and then tag someone else to do it. I have no idea how or even if I can tag someone on here *thanks again Blogger*, so I will be giving a shout out to my victim on Facebook when I share. Alright here goes nothing :)
Homemaker Tag
Disclaimer: I do actually work two days a week just for fun, not money, apparently that doesn't count...
1. Growing up what did you see yourself doing?
First and foremost I have always envisioned myself as a homemaker. There is nothing else I have ever wanted more than to be a good wife and mother. Especially a mother; I actually always joked that if I weren't married by thirty I was going to throw in the towel and just start adopting kids on my own. Seriously though, that would have happened. However, in the field of an actual paying career, for the majority of my childhood I wanted to be a electuary school teacher. Later on in my teenage years, after my parents not so pleasant divorce I began to gravitate towards helping children in a more personal way, and changed my mind to child psychology, which is what I began going to college for. Someday when/if I go back to college I'm going to have the dilemma of what I want to be when I grow up all over again, because even though I'm halfway there with psychology, teaching is something that has always been close to my heart.
2.What did your husband think when you decided to be a homemaker?
He didn't think anything, because it was his idea. When we married I was working for an afterschool program with local elementary schools, and going to college. After graduating I worked at a pediatric dentists office for a couple years, and then we had a surprising/rushed move out of state for Dylon's work. Once we got settled into our new life in Utah, I started looking for work, and that's when Dylon suggested I stay home or just work for fun *making coffee!*. This stemmed from the fact that we had both agreed during our engagement that it, in our opinion, was best I stay home once we had children. Right before the move I suffered from my first miscarriage, and even though we didn't have a child yet, it was apparent that it was in our near *sort of* future. Therefore, he didn't think it was worth me trying to find a job just to quit later.
3. Why do you think homemaking is so important?
Now I don't want to offend anyone, I am aware that staying home is not what works for every family, I am only speaking for our situation. Homemaking is important to me because I've always felt that if I were to have a family, I needed to be the one to take care of them. I feel its my responsibility as a mother to teach my children to be productive members of society, and although I don't want to shelter my kids from the realities of the world, I want to make sure I am there to help them understand it. I want to always be available to answer questions, lend a listening ear, and offer advice. Call me old fashioned, but its just not a responsibility I feel I should put on someone else.
4. How do you think your family would function if you went back to work?
Since I am working a little, I'm going to take this as "if I were working full time". I think we could make it work if necessary, but it would be hard. Dylon works long hours of physical labor, and therefore doesn't have the energy to help with a lot of housework. If there were two of us that tired I think we would both be worn ragged. Not to mention have you seen how much childcare costs?! With the field I have my degree in now, we wouldn't be much better off with me working after paying the daycare fees. I looked into it when we were living in Colorado and I would be making a grand total of $3 an hour... no thank you.
5. What are some things you've had to sacrifice in order to stay home?
Nothing really. As I mentioned above, that three dollars doesn't make that much difference in the long run. We've kind of set up our life to be this way from the beginning, since we knew its where we were headed. I guess if I had to choose something, I would say I have sacrificed the adult social time I used to get from going to work everyday.
6. Any advice you can give to women who want to become homemakers?
Don't think it will be easy. Being a stay at home mom can be hard, lonely, and there isn't a lot of room for failure with everyone you love the most relying on you to keep things in order. Make sure you and your husband are one the same page, and keep and lines of communication open on what you expect from each other. Lastly, stay motivated, keep a cheerful attitude, always make time for yourself, don't forget who you used to be, and what you used to love to do. Homemaking isn't forever, and you'll need those things to fall back on when the kids are older.
That's it! There is my homemaking tag. I'm going to continue to clean my house while listening to cheesy 80's music to keep motivated. Have a fabulous night everyone! Here's some music for your listening pleasures. *I plan on listening to this song on repeat until I hate it* :)
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